Sheila - thank you THANK you for the BUT IT DOESN'T MATTER! This is an issue that has bugged me for years the way some people often (I write PCly, thinking really Most Americans I've Met) really care what gender you are even when you're not in bed with them. I was raised to think that while it isn't sexist to prefer to sleep only with men, or women, it IS sexist to care what genitals a person has when you are not going to put them to use.