Well, Janie, I know that you will not take this wrong....
What my elder friends and our parishioners teach me over and over is that they can and do choose their own sources of support and advice.... that their choice is among peers when they have access to them (senior centers here are very well-attended), or spry "youngsters" who can demonstrate toys (demystifying them) without urging. They are quite good at spotting and stealing good ideas....
The old folks I know use many items their kids don't know they are using. They like to keep their relationship with their kids as adult as possible and not have EITHER party playing parent. Wherever the relationship is about fun and not power struggles, they seem to flourish, as no doubt would most human beans of any age.
The power struggles they perpetuate (and they do, gotta love 'em) may SEEM to be about a current topic du jour, but as I am sure you know it's usually really about something else, something old and unresolved where they still want to be right.