At least you know it's happening... when my brother was killed, I got bundled away to relatives without chance to say goodbye. When I did get back a month and more later, almost every trace of him was gone.Grief is a terrible thing to share with lots of people, but it's even worse keeping it to yourself. Posting here is one of the best things you could have done, because you can share your feelings, without confrontation, wish it was around 20 years ago....
Love and warm fuzzy feelings, give the cat a stroke for me...
LTS