I am very new here at Mudkat. So I have only just caught this thread.
Can I say that I know everthing that you are both going through because I have been through the throat cancer/vocal chords thing.
I too had many ups and downs and some false dawns.
I too had to give up eating and drinking most of the things that up until then were my favourites.
Above all I had obviously to give up singing.
There is a happy ending though - I got through it and gradually ( and I mean gradually ) things got better.
I have now been officially cleared by The Christie Hospital here in Manchester England. They finally threw me out and don't want to see me any more. lol
I send all my very best wishes to you both and can I finally finish on a very positive note by saying that recently I have dug out my old guitar and have started to sing again !!!!
All things are possible in this amazing World in which we live.
My prayers are added to all those thousands that have already been sent by this fine body of people.