I think you 'Cats all need a healthy dose of Paul Gallico's book called The Silent Miaow. I don't know if it is still in print, but you can probably find it in a library somewhere. We are all victims of feline-cajolery and Paul Gallico has seen through their wiles.
It's very funny and very true. I have had a copy of it for about 10 years but I first read it about 10 years before that. It's a must-read for people who think they are in charge of cats, or people who think it is a mutual benefit society. The whole scenario has been designed by the cat right from the start - not unlike the revelation of the lab rats in The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.