I think Janie really hit the nail on the head -- pick your battles and keep at them. You do have one really huge advantage (aside from the fact that Tom's stay is of limited duration, even though longer than he'd like), and that is that he is an intelligent, articulate (albeit a bit soft-spoken just now...) patient who can keep track of his own meds and the timing of them, and can report accurately on what goes on -- or doesn't. Just think of all the nursing home patients (my Mom was one for 2 1/2 years) who are too out of it to know what's going on or to speak up for themselves.

Anyhow, hang in there, guys. We're all pulling for you!

Nancy