Just found this thread, today, Kat.

First things first: {{{KAT}}} Hugs.

Second: I know we've been full out with others who have been in much more need

Ah, I know that Brain-refrain well, and boy, it sure does get to be a tired chorus! So I'll remind you, just as I remind myself:

"This is not a misery contest. There's no grand judge out there, measuring each person's need. And when we have a need, no matter how 'big' or 'small,' it is a good thing to ask for help."