ake, when my daughter was 9 or so, she came home, disgruntled. She said, Sharon said I am bossy. And all my friends agreed with her.

I said, Well. Are you?

If you don't understand that little analogy, who was it said something to the effect that if one person calls you an ass, shrug and forget him. If everybody/em>s says you are an ass, give up and order a saddle.

Or something like that.