We are each responsible for our own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Nothing more, and nothing less. If I choose to go for a jog through the dark alleys of a major city late at night, I am making risky choices, and I am responsible for putting myself at risk. However, if I do get mugged or assaulted, I am in no way to blame for the assailent's decision or actions to assault me.

If some one gets up in my face and starts yelling insults and spits. Chances are I am going to feel really angry, and most people would understand why I was that angry. If I haul off and punch the person, some would say it is that person's fault for getting in my face. I say 1. I am responsible for my emotions. No one "makes" me feel whatever it is I feel. 2. No one but me is responsible for my actions. The person in my face did not make me punch them. I am responsible for my own impulse control, or lack thereof.