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Thread #127384   Message #2840389
Posted By: Stilly River Sage
15-Feb-10 - 06:10 PM
Thread Name: BS: 'Some rape victims should take blame'- ??
Subject: RE: BS: Some rape victims should take blame
Sorry, but women never used to behave like this years back, and we never got treated that way by men, as in sex being almost expected on a first date, because most people got to know each other first.

What planet was this? Whose history is this?

And as an aside, I might be out of date here, but as far as I recollect there is no such crime as male on male "rape". Assault, buggery, maybe, but "rape" as far as I recall (and I am talking legal definition, not socio-speak) is a male on female crime.

Rape is a violent crime. It just happens to have the sex act as the vehicle. It is also one of opportunity. The rapist sees the opportunity and takes it. The over-wrought husband or boyfriend who can't take "no" if the partner changes his or her mind (for whatever reason) becomes a rapist if force is applied. The dissapointed partner is entitled to be pissed off, is entitled to call quits to such a relationship if he thinks he was being toyed with, but he isn't entitled to force his way. You can substitute "she" and "her" in the aggressor mode, but it makes for sloppy writing to try to include all options all of the way through that paragraph.

Who knows what goes on in the head of a rapist, but the victims aren't just drunk attractive young women in miniskirts. If everyone adopted a policy of keeping an eye out on where they are and not leaving themselves open to be preyed upon, there would be fewer, but it wouldn't go away.

SRS