"Well color me Catholic but I do think women have a responsibility for what men think of them. (this does not translate to approving of rape etc. so don't jump to nutty conclusions). mg"

Absolutely agree.


"Have you never ever fancied someone and then found beer breath, a bad comment, halitosis, sweaty socks... and changed your mind on that instant? You can be turned on and horny, but it can go in an instant too. This has to be about actual consent. Once NO is issued... no matter how tough it is on the guy, it should be taken as full withdrawal of consent and his most sensible course of action is to STOP immediately."

Perhaps the woman should learn to stop immediately, before she gets started on winding the man up.

No, I don't do 'sex', I do 'love'. There is not the first, without the second, for me. If a man wanted me for the first alone, then I would think very badly of him. If you want me, then you have to love me. That is the respect I have for myself, and that is the respect I expect from others.

I have felt that way all my life.

I have never seen sex as just a physical act. I see Love as a Spiritual one, as well as a Physical one, so the way that people now hop in and out of bed, or 'shag' up against a wall, with a complete stranger is totally and utterly alien to me.

We have lost the art of Love and replaced it with the cold confusion of sex which seems to me to leave those who participate in it feeling lost, confused and lonely, in the long run.

It is way past time that we brought Love back to our young women, as well as self respect, tenderness and the unwritten rules that once used to surround relationships.