"But, that would mean that you're expecting women to be responsible, and you've stated that women don't need to be responsible because there is no excuse for rape"

NO.


Noone says that women should not act responsibly.

Everyone should act responsibly.



That has nothing to do with this:



A rape vitim is not responsible for being raped.


The two things are exclusive to each other.



We are all responsible for our own actions.


We are not responsible for other peoples actions.


A Rapist is responsible for the act of rape, not his victim.


Is that clear?