I don't think it is a purely semantic argument, David. If all rape victims are to be equally pitied, does it not detract from the proper sympathy for, & rage that should be felt on behalf of, the victim of a real brutal stranger-rape ~ the very worst sort ~ to equate it with absolutely no emotional distinction to what we feel for a last-minute-mind-change prick-tease? I think you are showing less of the feelings called for to the victims of the former by over-sympathising with those of the latter. The man is at fault in both cases also, sure ~ but not, surely to the very same degree of culpability?