I think the discomfort comes from somewhat dubious language like "prick tease" and "your bitch and my unfortunate". The basic problem is that there is this polarised characterisation of either the sexless innocent or the nasty, calculating, man-eating jezebel. It is as much a caricature as the notion of the slavering, voracious male who, once he's got a stiffy, MUST have his lust satisfied. Neither, I think, bears much relation to real life in 99% of cases.

Ruth, sorry you find the language dubious — but I tried to be careful NOT to 'polarise', and was at pains to point out that these designations apply only, as you yourself confirm, to 1% of cases (& I think your 99% probably an underestimate ~ probably nearer 99·9%). But there still does remain that ·01% of 'hard cases' ~ &, as they say, it is the hard cases that make the bad law. & if DonT persists in thinking they should all be treated and regarded exactly the same, then I say again, I hope it keeps fine for him.

Grateful to Bill D above for his support.