Emma,

In addition to your comments, I would add that some (not all) rapists are men who have an "ideal love" for a woman whom they have put on a pedestal.

This obsession, and surrender to the feelings they fantasize are shared, leads them to ignore a womans discomfort with the attention they are receiving.

Ths fantasy of love is responsible for many rapes.

In addition, objects of this kind of obsession are generally "straight" looking women who the guy feels he wants to love and protect, patronize and control.

Not a great position for a woman to be in, yet where the woman consents, it is the foundation of many unhappy marriages with no actual relatonship between husband and wife.