This will be somewhat scattergun - I have stayed away from this thread because I couldn't stand some of the lunacy, but alas I have been tempted.

Good posts Ruth.

Someone must have a bad memory! Not one man in a thousand fully has control of his penis. When he is young it often goes up when not wanted. When he is old it often goes down when not wanted. There will be nothing (much) he can do about that. That is entirely different from what he does with the penis.

As for the women dressed most as Lizzie loves to criticise being harder to convince - perhaps they get a better range of offers and can therefore be more choosy about which they accept.   That's entirely up to them and none of her business.

If women choose to have sex as often as possible, well that too is their choice not hers and I wish them every enjoyment.   She comes back again and again to the idea that something has to justify women having sex. The only thing that matters is that (or whether) they wish to.   This seems to be what Lizzie is running away from. She wants it seems to disempower women and reduce them to dolls again. There again she seems to want to disempower children by allowing them to skive off school so they remain ignorant and unfulfilled too.

But as to levels of condemnation of rape, there is one threshold and then a gradation. Every rape is a rape and deserves to be condemned and punished as one. Then there may be degrees of aggravation, the use of additional violence, the addition of categories of forced acts, the journeys into other avenues of sexual behaviour (DPP -v- Bourne)