Michelle, how about asking that neighbor over for coffee or tea, and see how much of it you can do yourself, or if they need to give you a hand? And go from there.

I'm so sorry about your uncle. Bone cancer is a nasty one, no way around it. And what is it with doctors saying "it's nothing" when a patient complains of a lump or a pain? Time is of the essence in diagnosis and survivability. My doctor had me in the next day (Wednesday) when I called about bleeding and did an ultrasound that day. I had the D&C on Friday, and when the cancer diagnosis came back I was in ten days later for the second surgery. This is the way it is supposed to be.

SRS