i understand and totally get the need for personal responsibilty.
i just don't think it applies in the case of rape to the victim.

if it was a car accident, you wouldn't blame the driver of another car for being on the same road at the same time as say a drunk driver.
getting into a car driven by someone you know is drunk would be very silly.though you still wouldn't be to blame for a crash . BUT if you didn't know that person was drunk and got into the car, you as a passenger would bear no responsibilty at all to whether a crash occurs or not.
the same with a rapist. if one knows he is a rapist, one wouldn't go anywhere near him sorry, or her. you wouldn't be inviting it but would know the increased chances of it happening. therefore be able to make an informed decision.

to live life without trusting anyone to some degree woud be a very sad life indeed. one which i doubt anyone of us could imagine.

does that make sense?

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