"It is completely understandable that they might not identify any way in which they made it more likely.   But the infinite set of choices they did make has to be returned to their own causative perspective if they are not going to go through the rest of their lives being afraid and unsure of themselves because of what some bastard did."


Well I supose they might compare their circumstances with those of other rape victims, during which process they would find that most rape victims are attacked by close friends, acquaintances and family members.

They might detect a pattern and conclude that they should be less trusting of their friends and family.

Do you thin that women who have been raped by close friends, acquaintances or family should learn not to be so trusting of them?

After all, if you wish to apply a principle, is it not important to apply it consistently?