Well, darlin' Bobertz,

It is what it is, which seems to be the conclusion at which you have also arrived. You understand what you and P-Vine have going for you as a couple. You not only adore her and she, you, you share that love of the natural world, of digging in the dirt, of fostering nature in a planned way in some spaces, and letting nature run it's course in others. Complainin' here is a useful outlet to deal with the the bumps and rough places where the duo ain't so dynamic, but you clearly know and respect the many more ways ya'll mesh, and cherish that all-in-all, when it comes to dirt, plants, garden, nature, you are over-all a very effective and dynamic duo. You ain't about to upset that apple-cart by keeping serious score or letting that little eden ya'll are creating suffer for the sake of behavioral modification, and I don't blame you. It is a rare enough thing for both of a couple to love the land the way the two of you do. That is worth putting up with one another.

Hugs to both of you.