Dear anon,
We all have to make the best of what we are given in this life.

You have been given a far tougher hand to deal with than the vast majority of people.

You are dealing with it in the best way you can, taking into account the feelings of as many other people concerned as you can.

There is a limit to what any one person can do to make things right, however wonderful that person is.

It seems to me that you are doing a pretty good job in the circumstances, so go easy on yourself. :)

Love,
Noreen