the world is that simple , Noreen.

all I am saying is that if the overwhelming compulsion has been kept in abeyance for so long, then it can wait a couple more years before realisation, until the kids are out of the way.

they will still have to deal with it, of course, but at least outwith the unavoidable peer pressure of their schoolmates.

all of which may be (and I sincerely hope is) totally irrelevant to the case of Guest anon, of course.