I think Jeri has made a really good point about the mum really being the one who wants Girlchild in the band. I really hate to see that. It pretty much works out to parents being cool through their kids. If this singer doesn't want to do this for herself, her heart will never be in it. And it's not fair to her, either. You see this in all sorts of creative arts. Mothers pushing their reluctant step-dancing daughters on the stage coz they "look so cute" in their knotwork dresses. Kids who WILL take piano lessons and that's all there is to it! For that matter, you have high school aged boys whose fathers can't stand to look at them if they don't make the varsity team.

This may or may not be the case here but if it is, the mother probably needs to have her feelings hurt!

I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. It's a tough call. At any rate, unless the band is relying on Girlchild, you need to get rid of her.

Rich