One that I hate is "did you know (so and so) was/is gay?"

another, less offensive one that still manages to irk me:

"Who wrote that song?"

Honestly... in the cases of both questions... what the hell difference does it make? Most of the time, those questions are being asked in order to pigeon-hole someone into a category that someone can either then accept or reject.

Why not just take each individual life or performance on its own merits?

My thoughts.

BBS