I think non-folkies simply don't realise they're being inconsiderate, to them it's just a bonfire party. Last June there was a group of guests who chattered loudly through everyone until there was an umm 'incident' where some chap kinda rudely told them to shut-up, and then that sparked an argument! I liked Tam's silly approach with the stick best. No-one gets upset by humour. But I don't think it was actually noticed by the chatterbox though!