Mike, I appreciate the clarity with which you made your point.

I think people use the kind of unfortunate shorthand to which you allude, in an attempt to indicate the importance they place on values they feel are at stake. I say unfortunate because using a button-pushing word usually accomplishes the exact opposite of what is intended, which usually is clear communication.

I would hope-- before a universally defensive tone develops in this thread where we all take turns assuring each other we never meant this or that or whatever offense-- that we all just pause and give thanks for the access we have to one another's hearts in this forum. That access is a precious thing to be well cared for.

I think when a topic or an approach to it hurts or offends, it's appropriate to holler a good clear OUCH. I know in my case that when I do this, I just want that OUCH to be heard and for an understanding of it to be incorporated in the future communication.

Good on ya, Mike.

~Susan