No, Thomas, you are right, and that is precisely why it is incumbent on those who CAN love, to love, even the hard-to-love, for how else do they learn about it?

We may say some have chosen not to love.

The past is determined, but the future, no matter how firmly entrenched someone seems in a present-time behavior and mindset, is entirely free choice. The choice to love is more powerful, always. It always has a greater potential to positively impact the future.

Who are we to know which act of love toward someone might make the difference and strike them on just the day they are ready to stop posturing?

~S~