Lizzie...thank you for sharing that message. (there is no need to be critical of it or of the mother whose heart went out to the other mother!!) This message helped me to find tears that had not yet
surfaced during the whole ordeal...very cathartic!

Grief counsellors are the first ones to say that each person's grieving process is personal, and that it is not helpful to just
say "you should get over it" as there are many ways to deal with loss.

When my mother died, Hospice workers were so helpful that i wanted
to join thier group to help others thru. (of course it is totally
different when the loss of life is sudden, or the loved one is young)

perhaps that mom could channel her grief thru Mothers Against Drunk Driving and find a support group there. I was hit by a drunk driver
while bicycling and sustained major injuries....an incident that stays with you for a life time!!