For a thread that was meant to be a "joke" this certainly has become interesting and, at times, serious.

There is a story about an elderly Quaker woman who, when asked why she had never married, remarked, "Because it would take an awfully good man to be better than none."

I have found that an "awfully good man" is still an awful lot of work.

How narcissistic each person is, or is not, and how hard each person is willing and able to work on a relationship, or not....

The wonderful Oliver Sachs is a happy "singleton" as he relates it.