So, the conclusion is,
everyone has an opinion,
opinions are all different,
it doesn't matter,
no-one knows,
various authorities are also out-of-date,
and we have to be guided by some-one dead who pronounced 'Ralph' as 'Rafe.' (In the English manner.)

Very edifying! :-)

I'll go go on singing it my own way, rhyming with 'hives.'