Lorcan,

You are asking a hippo to do ballet dancing.

Take the Quakers for what they are - fundamentally good eggs, but incapable of changing their essential nature - which has its limitations. Less limited than some, but you seem to have located their boundaries - respect those boundaries and live with it.

For what its worth I have the same problem with the English folk scene, which seems to see the generality of the English population as infra dig.

best wishes

al