Still, there's a great deal to be said for taking it slowly and working up to intimacy, if that's what you want. (Or collapsing on top of each other in a frenzied heap going at it like Little Bunny Foo-foo, if you're more in that mood ...) But what's icky and unsensual these days is the quest for quickly "closing the deal" or moving on.

And I don't know that taking things slowly and building up a good head of steam, so to speak, is equivalent to sexual gamesmanship. It's more in the nature of walking down a path you don't know well rather than dashing headlong into unfamiliar territory, assuming because you've done It before, you've done It with This Someone. It's always different, or ought to be. Otherwise we're not dealing with individuals, but with some projection of what's going on inside our own heads. (The larger ones, on top.)

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