Thanks for the reply mp. I know that some things are described as an abomination or as being detestable but I believe all sin is sin to God just as your friends explained. I'm better than him because he does this and I only do that does not work.

Complicated? I am. I am not always right. I am fallible. I know I have not always done the right thing too.

I doubt any one of us could truthfully say otherwise...