My personal policies are:

To question the necessity of any thinking being cast in terms of Something VERSUS Something Else. (My experience being that Truth usually is roomy enbough for Something AND Something Else, neither of which quite make sense without the other).

To refrain from discussing something this complicated issue, chockfull of various bits of old mixed up stuff, with anyone with whom I am not (yet!!) close enough to exchange a look in the eye, a song, a snog, a laugh, and perhaps a bit of childlike wonder or even prayer.

~Susan