I would say it depends..one big thing is if he is a partner or a husband..if you are not married I would be much more inclined to come back, especially with your daughter's health problems. On the other hand, it seems there would be some way she could immigrate to England if she was forced to to get health coverage..but then she is getting married..would daughter qualify for a state job? That would be best for her. I personally would not adjust my life for a non-married partner, but would quite a bit if I were married. Oh shit the tsumani alarm is just coming on. mg