I can't carry a tune in a bucket. It's not for lack of trying, learning, practicing, etc. I've been a performing musician for 40 years, play several instruments, have a good ear (I can hear when people, including me, are out of tune). I have worked with multiple teachers and have been in bands with and been advised by many very good vocalists. I can play a complicated accompaniment on the guitar or piano while singing with great expressiveness and phrasing. I know what note I want to sing and can hear it in my head, but that note doesn't come out of my mouth. My ex-wife, who used to work with people with brain injuries, thinks I had an injury when I was a kid that took out a narrow slice of functionality.

I, too, am tired of people telling me that everyone can sing and that I can learn. Yes, I can sing. No, I can't sing in tune.