Many of us want to be helpful to each other here. Inevitably, as I think Maggie has pointed out in the past, we only see the part of the picture someone's words paint, interpreted by our personal experience. I appreciate that Mary focused her later observations on her own solution for herself. That leaves others free to take or leave her observations based on their personal situation.

You're a wonderful mother, Michelle. You are generous to keep a window open for us to share glimpses of your life. I've pretty much closed my virtual window.