Those things we would do automatically without thinking if we had no education or manners are still hardwired. What teaching kids manners does is allow them to use their will to *overcome* their hardwiring.

If they weren't hardwired, it would not take education or manners to stop those behaviors. People just wouldn't do them.

Rape, for instance, is hardwired into men, as it should be if we are to survive as a species. So is staying with batterers hardwired into women, again, to the greater survival ability of the species.

Rape is condemned by human *society* but that doesn't make it not hardwired. It just makes it reprehensible *in an educated, civilized adult* (but not in those with neither manners nor education, for whom it would simply be normal). And the degree of education it takes for a woman to leave her batterer is even greater - and sometimes not enough. That is why we have safe houses and intervening friends.

And the brain is the ONE organ we have where the "wiring" can be seen as it is closest to literal!