Setup of User dependent things are generally in a folder called "username," or in your case Neil. In the Neil folder, there should be a sub-folder called "Desktop." An icon for a Neil folder, that you place on the desktop, is a shortcut to the item called Neil in the Desktop folder under the Neil folder. The item called "Neil" in the Desktop folder should be a shortcut to the folder called Neil that contains the Desktop folder, that has the Neil shortcut in it.

I'd explain further, but I think I'm getting dizzy from the circular linking. ...; but I'm sure you'll understand.

John