Sorry, Shimrod, but one of the inconvenient things about performing in front of or with an audience is they don't follow your rules.

Unless you want to perform at the Metropolitan Opera or some such thing.

If you choose to be a folk-musician realize that your audience is "folk" who think (oddly enough) that they own the music every bit as much as you do.

As I said... your living room, and your shower. Both places where you can be in total control.