Hey, neighbor.... thanks for starting this thread.

One of the things we do to ourselves when we get in a bad place is make it worse by convincing ourselves that 'everyone else' has figured this shit out. It's nice to know that others haven't. But, others HAVE figured out tools we don't know about yet. And we have some THEY haven't figured out yet.

It feels unmanageable, because it IS unmanageable.

Dick and Jane's calls, friend. we need 2 sessions: 1 to whine, the other to strategize. Write it in sharpie on your hand : )

Leeneia, thanks for the important lesson about giving ourselves permission to be ourselves. Should we start a new thread, or just glean from here?

I will tell you that I NEVER, EVER, EVER iron a piece of clothing. Decided years ago that nothing I hate so bad, and put off so much, could be good for me. The very few things I've bought that actually REQUIRE ironing go into a very small pile to wait until a daughter in my house runs out of money. On my family coat of arms: Fold It Hot, Iron It Not.

Dani