Fact is, ya can only speak at the wife if yer not pleased. It's her call unless you decide it's yer call. Not an easy call. And you still gotta get her okay if ya wanna speak up. Bite yer tongue and bide yer time until it's really necessary to speak up fer yerself. And, ya still need her okay at that point.

Of course, I ain't tellin ya anything you don't already know. Just trying ta say I understand yer in a hard place. Good luck and I hope ya don't gotta say shit in the end.