Mousethief/Alex: Try seeing it from the other point of view: the daughter's. (Anybody's daughter.) You know your father doesn't want you "having sex" but YOU want to do EVERYTHING BUT "having sex." How would you define it THEN?

Here's another what-if: Say a woman gets married, and later discovers her husband refuses to have any kind of sex but oral sex. Would she be eligible for an annulment?