"always telling me I need some variety in my life and I need to go clubbing (I can hardly move!) because I'm only young"

Perhaps that may actually be some good advice but accompanied by a poor example. Your carer's experiences of "getting out" may only be limited to clubbing so that is what they suggest for you. Your preference is obviously concerts of some kind, possibly folk clubs or community choirs. The most important content of any of these is the social activity with old and new friends. We all need that.