In this day and age, both men and women can take resonsibility equally. There should in my view be absolutely NO difference between the marriage vows of a woman and those made by the man. Submission doesn't come into it. Neither does male 'strength'. Both should aim to exercise self-control and boundaries, but where are the 'distinctive differences'? Is a man's self-control different to that of a woman? Are her 'boundaries' not the same as his? We are not talking about couples in a prehistoric tribe here, where the male has to protect his female and children from danger etc. Neither are we talking about his physical strength where he must chop down trees or dam a river in the daily course of life. Women have power, a career, education, financial independence, ambition, responsibility, capability in the same way that men do. Our Church (C of E) has not for many years required any difference between the vows. This is a disappointing step backwards in female emancipation which I fondly imagined to have been completed in the eighties. Evidently I was wrong!