Lady Jean's comment is relevant in light of an article in the New York times Magazine last year. The article was about adult caregivers and cited data that the typical lifespan of these caregivers is shortened by one year for every year they take care of their incapacitated relatives, be they spice or parents.

The death panels issue is bogus in the present discussion. What is mandated in the affordable care act is that, when a person reaches a crisis or may need surgery, they and their family should receive at least one counseling session with their doctor to discuss both prognosis and what will happen in the event of not receiving treatment for this condition. Responsible doctors have been doing this for years. Generally, the family says to provide the treatment even when it is not truly warranted.