Sorry, friends, but I am getting tired of revisiting this same conversation. Everyone says what they always say, and no one does anything. Maybe we should forget the crap about blaming each other. It's an easy way to avoid dealing with the reality.

Instead, let's mourn the dead. Every time something like this happens, we need to do something that shows we feel the loss. Maybe there should be an official national day of mourning for each person killed. We could all wear black, lower the speed limits, call off the megabucks lotto, give up steak and dessert, and deal with the grief.

And let's take care of the victims. Pay the medical bills, cover all the memorial costs, make sure the survivors get the support they need. Provide for the costs of readjustment, whatever they are. And let's not forget about them a month later, like we always seem to do.

I know you're all kind and decent people, but I also know that you, and everybody, runs away from this--no one wants to think about the emptiness that those murders created, and we'd all rather fight about gun control and such things than confront it. The thing is, that more than anyone realizes, these discussions contribute to the problem.