Dear Pete, you've summed up our situation perfectly. Jane loved her house-full of Family & she was, all too quickly, exhausted & emotionally overwhelmed. The unspoken thought that this could be her last Christmas was palpable & I'm sure, added to her ultimate distress later in the day.
               I intended to mention in my previous post that it is a measure of the trust & respect that our Thread has increasingly engendered that some usernames have been 'sloughed off', enabling me to meet you, as it were, 'in the flesh'! Your right to privacy is yours & yours alone & I am touched & grateful that you have chosen to relinquish that right on my behalf.
                            With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx