Joe, I read this thread last night and didn't comment because the level of care I gave to my dad and, later, an uncle, never reached the level that your MIL needs, so I have no suggestions to make things easier. However, I decided to check in tonight to say that my heart goes out to you, your wife, and your mother-in-law.

Also, I can say that during a three-month hospitalization that included extensive rehab, I worked with both a PT and an OT. There was a lot of overlap between their areas of expertise, but I am glad I had the help of both. And sometimes I was hoisted and did not find it awfully uncomfortable even though I was very overweight. It might be harder on a thin person who has less natural padding. If you do get a hoist, perhaps there is a way to add padding to it to make it more comfortable.