You didn't do anything wrong except try to help a manipulative relative out of a bad situation and I am sure we've all done that before, to some extent.

I quit loaning a close relative money ages ago. I didn't get it back, I didn't sue them, I just made sure they understood it was not okay to ever ask me again and I chalked it up to one of those life lessons well-learned, even if it was the hard way.

kat